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When you’re trying to add a spark to your sex life, you might try blind folding your partner, or even talking dirty to them. Sometimes, it can go too far, especially when you’re talking dirty during sex. It can turn the best situations into the worst.
It’s only a turn-on if it’s done right. If I hear my partner say stuff like, “Who’s pussy is this?”, I will ask them to get off me immediately.
Don’t use derogatory words. Calling a woman a slut or referencing a woman’s lady parts isn’t sexy at all. Don’t tell your partner to be quiet, either. It’s rude and makes you look like you don’t care.
It’s better to find a happy medium when talking dirty. You don’t want to go too far with it, to the point that your partner thinks that they’re being degraded. On the other hand, you don’t want to be so soft with it that your partner gets bored.
Men and women have different preferences when it comes to dirty talk. Most men prefer their partners to talk dirty because it heightens the experience. Some see talking dirty as a role-playing experience. It confirms that your partner is completely in the moment.
Men also feel that talking dirty makes them feel special. When their partner shows them some attention, it makes them feel like they are seeing something that not everyone else gets to see.
Finally, men feel that talking dirty shows self-confidence. A woman who’s comfortable talking dirty is less sexually inhibited. Men find that confidence most attractive.
Women prefer when their partners use the right words. Women do find talking dirty attractive, but it can be very silly at times, to the point that it can make the girl laugh, so talking dirty is always better when it doesn’t get too wordy.
Women love being complimented during sex. Just saying, “You’re so hot, sexy or beautiful” will lose its meaning eventually. Be creative by saying “you feel so good “ or “taste good”. This will turn your partner on and make the sex even better.
Talking dirty can be very challenging at times. However, once you learn what your partner likes, it can take the sex to a whole new level.
Contact CU Independent Staff Writer Alex Myers at alexandra.myers@colorado.edu.
